Someone To Watch Over Me......02/08/10Someone To Watch Over Me......Are men and women really so diffrent... I HATE when I have to ask my boyfriend to help me out around the house. I just want him to find it in himself to help me. He sees me wondering around the house, doing the everyday chores. After a hard day at work. But the first thing he does when he comes home is sit in the sofa and play on his computer. I'm NOT doing the chores because I like doing them. I'm doing them because it needs to be done. When this happens I get so frustrated I start banging the doores and walk heavily around the house. Because I want him to notice that I'm frustrated. But somehow I just can't just stop and tell him that. When I'm almost finished he says stuff like "I just let you do everything" - he thinks he's being sweet but he isn't. I really want to say to him; "then why didn't you stand up and help me" But I don't, because I don't really want a fight. Don't know why. And afther a few minutes the guilt comes - because I think I'm being unfair.
But am I? 1 comment
Comment from: Mrs H [Member]
You're not being unfair. You both work. You should both pitch in around the house. Why not make two lists? One for his responsibilities, one for yours?
Unfortunately, men are not mind-readers. Oh how I wish they were sometimes! Men are far from it. They MUST be asked/told what is expected of them, I'm afraid to say. Why not sit down calmly and discuss this with your boyfriend? I'm sure he's reasonable or you would not be with him. Tell him you love him and you even love to take care of him, but you need some taking care of as well, and it would help you if he would pitch in. Then, divvy out the chores that each one of you must do. This way, if he slacks, then you can approch him about it with NO GUILT. Give it a try... won't hurt. Might actually help.
02/08/10 @ 14:51
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