Miss. Mentsh

I believe, the key to mental illness is acceptance.  We need to learn acceptance.  We need to know that we are loved for what love truly is and means and then apply that value to our self.  It is a very difficult task since how does one know or understand what love is?  To me, mental illness is like someone with an addiction problem.  The problem isn't entirely the individual with the addiction.  Many are to blame for the problem, like the enablers and abusers.  All have contributed in some way.  True, the person is a menace to themselves because the addiction is killing them, but how does one know how to have a lifestyle other than what they know and what they have been taught.  How does someone know function in dysfunction?  One can be very destructive in trying to cope with what one does not understand.  Even if, somehow, function tries to create itself through some kind of rehabilitation process, the person ultimately is thrown back to cope with the same situations and family dysfunction as what has always been.  The environment is always murky and muddy and the pain continues to reside or continue.    To me, mental illness is the same as addiction.  I am addicted to dealing with my problems in a way that is mentally unhealthy.  It has been my challenge to push against my old understanding and recognize the addiction, understand the enemy, and desire not to have it control me anymore.  I had to find truth of what is healthy thinking and living.  I am not taught by my family how to live in a functional way.  Even the world is littered with so much unhealthy information, deception, and selfish help.  Finally, I realized that my creators created my dysfunction that will always be part of me, but if they desire to not stop to learn for themselves too they will never be able to be there for me and each other in a supportive, productive, unselfish way.  Amongst dysfunction, is the person with the mental illness, because lies brought that person there.  That person needs to recognize the lie, and discern truth to be stronger then their environment.  There is a box which does not allow progress or support better health, since in it is no understanding of how to achieve it.  As weak and dependant on people that we are, we really have to be independant and strong to survive healthily!  Unless we desire change for ourselves independantly, and accept only what is good can we grow and be free of the confinement and bondage of our own selves.  We cannot depend on them that don't see, don't hear and don't love.  They don't know what love is and we don't need them.   

I have learned and I continue to learn.  I am very grateful for my faith in God.  I am thankful to now know there was and is a standard in place that choice has denied and has felt was not important.  For that, this world continues to spiral out of control since there is no longer structure.  "Whatever goes" has shaped our environment and taken common ground.  With this way of acceptance, people allow their children to grow up with little guidance.  Since more and more we move from what is good for us to what we don't know is good for us anymore, it is like, they don't know the stove is hot, so it is not considered to teach a child not to touch the stove. An exageraged analogy, however, in this day who is the parent anyway?  My family continues in selfishness to the point of denying their children as they parade through life indulging in vanities with very little regard of the consequences or even admitting that there are any.   

Thank God that there is God, that I can be adopted out of my dysfunction and learn function as I fight my own brought up understanding that is to destroy myself.  With my little understanding of life that could not function, unfortunately, I desired only not to function anymore.  I had almost entirely given up on hope, which would have been very disastrous, since the deception of this short life is so thick, without hope I would not have found faith.  Yet with that mustard seed of faith, somehow I found hope and managed to believe, and it grew into something wonderful in me.   

My friend, if you are reading this and feel discouraged, permit me to encourage you today.  Your story is not a new one to me.  It is not a story since I know the reality.  I know the depths of your pain and hurt.  It is consistent and probably always will be.  It most definitely will always be a part of you, it shaped you and is shaping you; however, the right thing to do is to make it your strength and not your weakness.  Don't let them take any thing more from you! 

Trust God.  Ask Him simply to help and that is all.  Always make Him first and He will show you love.  He is real, but this world denys Him and makes Him out like some scam, but I am living proof that that is a lie.  If you love Him you will want to love yourself.  I love, which is amazing.  Be submissive to that idea and wanting to be better.  This life is short, and whoever you are only matters to you.  Paradise awaits for them that persevere. 

Because of faith, there is hope, but the greatest of these is LOVE ❤