ok here is a little background before i start my story. i am 32 years old and have one child. i have been friends with "J" for around 13 years. we have been through a lot together. she has stolen from me and i at one time slept with her 1st husband. but i thought, until recently, that we had gotten over all of that childish shit and that we were grown up enough to have a real friendship. she recently got out of prison for bad checks, drugs, and a few other things. she had nowhere to go so i let her stay with me. when her 2nd husband got out of prison i also allowed him to stay with me. this all started around the end of march. well i am a big girl and i have a very low self-esteem. i close myself up from the world. i only have 2 friends that i thought that i could trust. J has tried to help me in the past with this problem. she has tried to set me up with different men to try to get me into a relationship so that i would be happier. i really appreciate what she has done for me. while her and her husband have been staying here they help out with the household chores, dishes, laundry, sweeping, mopping, and shit like that. but they have also not helped pay for food or given me any money for them staying here. i wouldn't have accepted much but for them to just offer would have been nice. i am a single mother on disability so my money dont go far. i barely have enough for me and my daughter to make it through the month. but i wanted to help them out. and i dont mind helping them out because they do do a lot of work around the house. J set me up with her uncle almost 13 years ago. we have been on again and off again ever since. i love him and he loves me but we live almost 2 hours apart and dont get to see each other that much. we are both unable to make a total commitment at this time. me because i dont want to move my 13 year old daughter away from her family and friends and him because since his dad passed away 2 years ago he has to take care of his mother who is wheelchair bound. we see each other when we can. but i still have my needs and i still want to have someone closer to me to be around for those needs. (i am talking about sex). so when J can she trys to hook me up with someone so that i can get what i need. but this last time i think that she took it a little too far. she got ahold of one of her old buddies "F" and she told him that if he would sleep with me that she would let him join her and her husband having sex. so that kinda makes me feel like a piece of shit. so one night F came over to hang out and watch movies and shit. J and her husband went to bed in my daughters bedroom because she was not at home that night so instead of sleeping on the couch they went to sleep in her bed which didnt bother me. well F and i stayed up watching movies, i was in my chair and he was sitting on the couch. he asked me to join him on the couch. so i went over and sat by him. (i have known this F guy for years, not friends or anything but i live in a small town and pretty much everyone knows everyone else around here, i even went to school with his brother). well things got started and we ended up back in my bedroom. after we were done he said that he was going home. so i walked him out to the door and said goodnight. J wanted to talk to him before he left so i figured that they would talk then he would leave. so i just went to bed. this all happened about a week ago. well this morning i find out that instead of leaving F went into my daughters bedroom and they all had a 3 some on my daughters bed. they we kind enough to lay down their own blankets and stuff but it is still the point that they should not have done that stuff in my daughters room. i dont really care that they did it, but they could have at least asked to use my room instead. but after i found out about the whole deal of if you sleep with her i will sleep with you thing it has gotten me really depressed. i feel even more worthless, i feel like a disgusting pig that a deal like that had to be made for someone to sleep with me. and i am really hurt that J couldnt just have been honest with me and said well he really isn't interested in you. yes that would have hurt but not this bad. i feel as though i have been betrayed. mainly because when all of this started to come out she lied straight to my face about it. she tried telling me that their 3 some happened years ago not just last week. and like i said before i really dont care that they did it because it is their lives and they can do what they want they are adults. but it is the way that i was involved in the situation that upsets and hurts me. and to make it worse J is trying to justify herself by telling me that she was just trying to make me happy. WTF! how is that situation supposed to make me happy. so now i am confused about what to do about the whole situation. do i trust her and give her another chance? or do i just cut my losses and try to find a new friend? i just feel like it never fails that when i really start to trust somebody they end up stabbing me in the back. so i guess my question is what should i do about this whole situation? i really need some advice. so far all of the comments that i have gotten has been to get J out of my life at least until she realizes (if she ever does) that she was in the wrong. so can i please get some advice on what to do? please! i will appriciate any comments given. thanks for time that you have taken out of your day to listen to my story.